You know, she knows and who doesn't know -- that I'm crazy. But, do I know? I don't think, rather sure about it!

Social media, unfortunately, is adding hi-octane fuel to my narcissistic originality of mind.

I feel, I sense and I smell: A successful failure -- more about success than the failure!

Everybody assumes: More we go up the ladder more we should talk -- even if that sounds bullshit! I'm no exception!

Am I scared that if I don't justify where I'm, the end may come sooner than expected? May be!

So, a mysterious sense of pseudo-superiority complex keeps pushing 'me' up the virtual ladder  crushing a platoon of real  followers -- without mercy.

I know, I feel and I realize that I'm wrong but why the hell I still don't admit it? Why I'm so confused -- all the time?

Why don't I listen to my inner-self and accept the verdict?

Cross-posted from Life

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The other day while introspecting through my career achievements, I suddenly remembered a professional with whom I'd worked for few years, as his deputy .

The company was not in good shape -- incurring huge losses. As a last resort, the owner agreed to pay hefty compensation and managed to get the best available talent from reputed organizations. Somehow, I got included in the list and landed there.

Having worked with one of the largest system driven organization of that time for many years, I was suddenly at loss of enthusiasm and initiatives on the very first day.

Though I was told about the background and also the current state of affairs, but living with it even for few hours    turned out to be a different kind of experience. Only news worth mentioning was: my new boss would be joining the next day.

He came, silently, mingled freely with all of us, and in just few days became one of the most admired senior managers in the organization -- exhibiting essential ingredients of a true Leader.

He successfully removed all other priorities from our life by channelizing our thoughts in one direction: Revival of the company. All the team members followed him blindly, rather he made us follow him blindly which we didn't  realize at that point of time, but his ability to inspire and motivate us was remarkable.

Entire team worked round the clock, happily, embedding in mind, the single objective of reviving the lost glory of the company in terms of reputation as well as profitability -- finally, achieving the objective.

In less than 3 years, he turned around the company from a blacklisted entity to a self certified vendor, supplying precision engineering products to a galaxy of public and private sector organizations.

What made him such a good leader could be a million dollar question. But the answer is simple: It was his “Social Intelligence” skills, exhibiting empathy for all and becoming attuned to our moods, synchronizing his own brain chemistry with ours.

Apart from professional issues, we're confiding in him about our personal matters also, taking his guidance time and again -- making him an integral part of our life.

It was a unique biological synchronization or brain interconnectedness, through which he guided us to develop genuine interests in the purpose, fostering positive feelings in us -- whose cooperation and support he needed for achieving the goal.

Well, a recent discovery of mirror neurons in widely dispersed areas of the brain confirms above connectivity: helping us detect consciously or unconsciously others' emotions through their actions, and our mirror neurons reproducing those emotions. Collectively, these neurons create an instant sense of shared experience -- a mirror image.

Perhaps, because of these mirror neurons we followed his emotions and actions, moving seamlessly towards the goal , no longer his, but ours also.

Today, the company is 16 times bigger than what it was 17 years ago when I joined. Though, I decided to move on - 3 years later -  after contributing my share of dedicated efforts to rebuilding of the organization, but the memory of those 3 years still gives me immense satisfaction -- in terms of career achievements.

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Long ago, I wrote an article on this subject with specific reference to a question posted on one of the linkedin forum, "How to overcome Anger ? Has Anger any bright side also?" which drew huge attention from the forum members, and we almost concluded exactly in line with the following statement.

"The emotion of anger is neither good nor bad. It’s perfectly healthy and normal to feel angry when you’ve been mistreated or wronged. The feeling isn't the problem—it's what you do with it that makes a difference. Anger becomes a problem when it harms you or others," said Joanna and Jeanne on HelpGuide and I in total agreement with them.

What could a better example of the devastating manifestation of out-of-control anger, than the one demonstrated by Joe Wilson during US President Obama's speech on health-care reform to Congress, and how it impacted his political career, is known to all of us. I tried to throw some light on this issue through another article, with reference to Ex-President of US  Jimi Carter's statement --  alleged underlying current of racism.

I think anger has got a sinusoidal relationship with motivation, reaching the peak - charging us fully to perform at maximum potential - at some point, but beyond, it starts influencing our senses negatively and obviously affecting our logical ability to perform efficiently. 

If you are prone to such emotional outbursts, better do some home work - may refer to the guidance offered by APA - on this and bring it under control, - before it starts controlling you -  which otherwise, may jeopardize your personal and professional life -- beyond repair. Image Source

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